Stud, Butch, Dom

Ok so I was exploring YouTube this afternoon instead of studying as I should have been and I discovered this word “stud”. What I knew as stud before was a male dog that is used for mating with females, or a really hot, manly guy. Now by no means do I mean to imply that the following definition of “stud” i'm about to talk about is related. So a stud is what I previously knew as a butch lesbian. I came across a video in which two females were questioning how it is possible for a stud to have a baby momma. All I could think was wow, damn good question. I also saw another video in which two females, I’m assuming they were also lesbian, were dancing very provocatively and simulating sex with eachother…but the movements and positions were what you would expect from between male and a female. I sort of had this idea in my head that two females would have sex…let’s say differently, as in not the same things you would see between male and female. Apparently I am totally ignorant on this.

Back to the stud thing: There are some people who are against stud on stud or “dom” on “dom” (as they say in Baltimore) relationships. So that would be two butch females dating. There are also people who are against straight males being attracted to stud/dom/butch females. Now all of this dom, butch, stud thing is a bit confusing. I’m not quite clear on if being a stud means just dressing, acting, wearing hair, having mannerisms of a man or if the person is actually has to be lesbian or bi. But then I suppose a stud could be bisexual and then date a straight guy.

Anyway. It was just funny to me that this certain person thought it was, I think she said, not cute/unattractive/not sexy maybe disgusting? I don’t know, but in other words it was absurd to her that a straight male should want to be with a stud female. The reason I thought it was so funny is that she thought it was worse than her own lifestyle choice which is being a LESBIAN. That means she is attracted to people of the same sex as her the only difference is that they cannot dress or style their hair the same as she does. To me that was absurd. Her sister actually said it would be extra gay for two studs to date, or that it would be gay for a man to be attracted to a stud. Just wow. I don’t get it. It seems that it’s all about outward appearances with some people. Don’t people look any deeper? I understand that you would want to have an attraction to the person you are with, and that will include style of dress, body type etc…but how can someone be so against a relationship between two other people because they basically dress alike. Both dress like boys, for example, even if they are of the opposite sex. I wonder if they would be for a stud female dating a man who dresses and looks like a woman. Would that be OK? Or two fem lesbians?

The lines are so crossed. What makes someone masculine and what makes them a man is not the same thing. It’s almost as if there should be new subcategories of gender added in. There is no longer just male and female, and there apparently is no longer just gay/lesbian/bisexual. If I had time I would make up some kind of flow chart to figure out the whole thing.

I never realized how important CLOTHES are. Well, actually I did because oh Lord did I get the bad end of it in middle school & highschool. I used to dress like a boy, and before that I just wore whatever was given to me from the garage sales at which my aunt tastefully selected oversized t-shirts with other children’s names on them (but that’s another story). Clothing is really important though and I'm not sure that I like that. The stupid thing is we can’t even make the choice for ourselves, what we choose to wear. There are clothes made FOR men and there are clothes made FOR women, and if you happen to wear something that is not from the category into which your genitalia fits, lol, then you will be forever ostracized by society. Who freaking cares? They are just clothes. Just wear what you like. But apparently what you wear says a whole lot about you. Which for some people that may be true, clothing can be a way of expressing oneself, or it could not be. It could be purely functional like uh…I need to cover my body so I don’t get cold or get burnt by the sun or be put into jail or Baker acted for being naked. The psychology of clothing. I’m sure someone out there has studied it. Humans are such funny creatures but I guess that’s what makes us so complex and interesting.

Anyway. I just thought that was interesting. See there is so much I don’t know. Oh, and all of these people were black so I wonder if this is just in the black lesbian community or if it crosses the race lines. But back to the studies. Gotta learn about temperature regulation. Fun stuff.